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thedailywhat: Look at This Baby of the Day: Baby Wakes Up to...

Sun, 12 May 2013 18:31:42 +1000

Look at This Baby of the Day: Baby Wakes Up to Her Favorite Song

YouTuber bigrob357’s baby girl Amaya looks sound asleep in peace …until her favorite song comes on the stereo.

"It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is..."

Sun, 12 May 2013 18:22:53 +1000

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It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.

You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.

But in real life, you can’t avoid doing things. We have to earn a living, do our taxes, have difficult conversations sometimes. Human life requires confronting uncertainty and risk, so pressure mounts. Procrastination gives a person a temporary hit of relief from this pressure of “having to do” things, which is a self-rewarding behavior. So it continues and becomes the normal way to respond to these pressures.

Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them. Their older siblings may have been high achievers, leaving big shoes to fill, or their parents may have had neurotic and inhuman expectations of their own, or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.

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- David Cain, “Procrastination Is Not Laziness” (via pawneeparksdepartment)

This totally justifies every excuse I’ve been giving myself from not doing that thing I’m supposed to do.

(via aaronmoles)

in-the-margins: this old comic gets more relevant with each...

Sun, 12 May 2013 18:06:57 +1000

in-the-margins:

this old comic gets more relevant with each passing day.

kaaayrutledge: There’s a new Hyperbole and a Half, you guys,...

Sun, 12 May 2013 18:05:13 +1000

kaaayrutledge:

There’s a new Hyperbole and a Half, you guys, and it is spectacular.

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What If Your Friends Acted Like Your Pets

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:43:44 +1000

What If Your Friends Acted Like Your Pets

"The most beloved novel in the language was written by a rural parson’s daughter with no formal..."

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:42:13 +1000

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The most beloved novel in the language was written by a rural parson’s daughter with no formal education, in ten months, between the ages of twenty and twenty-one, and published two hundred years ago today. That’s not entirely true: she revised it later, but probably not very much. Elizabeth Bennet’s story was largely composed by someone Elizabeth Bennet’s age.

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“Pride and Prejudice” discredits one of our most deeply held beliefs: the idea that emotions have an absolute validity. Feelings are not right or wrong, we say; they just are. Or rather, feelings are always right, because they are—and we always have a right to them. It is a notion that was promulgated by the same feminism that helped to elevate Austen to her current eminence. So much of the feminist struggle involved asserting the legitimacy of women’s feelings. Emotions—the reality of female discontent within the patriarchal system—were the bedrock, in a sense, of the feminist argument.

But in the story of Elizabeth and how she learned to change her mind, Austen tells us something different. Oh, Elizabeth is very full of her feelings towards Mr. Darcy when she thinks she has the moral high ground: her rage at what he’s done to her sister Jane, her indignation on behalf of Mr. Wickham, her scorn for his aristocratic arrogance. But they all turn out to be based on false perceptions—some of them the products of those very feelings. “She grew absolutely ashamed of herself,” goes the little paragraph on which the novel turns. “Of neither Darcy nor Wickham could she think, without feeling that she had been blind, partial, prejudiced, absurd.” Emotions are wrong, Austen wanted us to know, when the conceptions that they’re based on are wrong. It doesn’t matter if they feel right at the time. Of course they feel right: they’re feelings! And we won’t grow up, or be happy, until we’re willing to acknowledge that.

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- The New Yorker looks back on 200 years of Pride and Prejudice. Validity aside, the importance of the emotions in writing remains indisputable, in Austen and elsewhere. (via explore-blog)

motleycraft-o-rama: ModCloth

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:40:47 +1000

motleycraft-o-rama:

ModCloth

scissorsandthread: Pretty Little City Cross Stitch Patterns |...

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:39:30 +1000

scissorsandthread:

Pretty Little City Cross Stitch Patterns | Satsuma Street

I was so excited when I came across Satsuma Street. Her cross stitch patterns are so amazing, and I check back regularly to see if she has new patterns! I am currently working on these Pretty Little City patterns - the Paris one right now, then London and then the Russian one - they are going to look amazing framed as a set!

"Baumeister suggests many strategies for increasing self-control. One of these strategies is to..."

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:39:07 +1000

“Baumeister suggests many strategies for increasing self-control. One of these strategies is to develop a seemingly unrelated habit, such as improving your posture or saying “yes” instead of “yeah” or flossing your teeth every night before bed. This can strengthen your willpower in other areas of your life. Additionally, once the new habit is ingrained and can be completed without much effort or thought, that energy can then be turned to other activities requiring more self-control. Tasks done on autopilot don’t use up our stockpile of energy like tasks that have to be consciously completed.”

- Riffing off psychologist Roy Baumeister’s fantastic book Willpower, Erin Rooney Doland advocates for learning new habits by starting small in an excerpt from the forthcoming 99U anthology Manage Your Day-to-Day.

Also see how to rewire your habit loops. Because, as William James knew, habit is everything.

(via explore-blog)

"Be careful which stories you expose yourself to. …The meanings you find, and the stories you hear,..."

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:28:11 +1000

“Be careful which stories you expose yourself to. …The meanings you find, and the stories you hear, will have an impact on how optimistic you are: it’s how we evolved. … If you do not know how to draw positive meaning from what happens in life, the neural pathways you need to appreciate good news will never fire up.”

- How to stay sane (via explore-blog)

"It is likely I will die next to a pile of things I was meaning to read."

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:27:42 +1000

“It is likely I will die next to a pile of things I was meaning to read.”

- Lemony Snicket (via runa-lovegood)

tieme-takeme: thelessdeceived: sophhss: gallifrey-feels: warc...

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:26:58 +1000

tieme-takeme:

thelessdeceived:

sophhss:

gallifrey-feels:

warcrimenancydrew:

lifeisacycle:

thethings-wecarry:

Oxford University students on why we need feminism

The last one.

The first one on the bottom row

holy crap

marry me

First one middle row, Doesn’t that make him gay…?

Umm, no. Men enjoying receiving anal stimulation/sex is NOT inherently “gay”. There are no “gay” sex acts. What fucking place is it of yours to be assuming what people’s sexualities are based on your very limited knowledge of the kind of sex they enjoy? Statements like this only go to prove his point further.

Don’t be silly, sometimes I like to take it in the ass, and that makes me a gay male!

But seriously… How does engaging in a sex act with a female make a man gay, no matter what it is? That’s hilarious.

edwardspoonhands: tessaviolet: Internet Addiction ≡ WHO...

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:25:54 +1000

edwardspoonhands:

tessaviolet:

Internet Addiction ≡

WHO IS THIS PERSON I LOVE YOUR COLOR GRADING THE STYLING OF THIS IS SO COOL I’M COPYING IT IN MY NEXT BLOG.

update: It’s a bit more muted in the actual vlog but i’m loving the intensity of this gif set. very cool (also update apparently his name is Troye, I enjoyed this video very much!)

Uh Oh..another attractive, witty, talented, non-american, excellent vlogger. How am I supposed to keep up!

wilwheaton: The number of people who don’t understand this...

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:24:43 +1000

wilwheaton:

The number of people who don’t understand this simple concept is truly staggering.

"We gotta start teaching our daughters to be somebodies instead of somebody’s."

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:24:24 +1000

“We gotta start teaching our daughters to be somebodies instead of somebody’s.”

- Kifah Shah (via wendesgray)

One Shade of Grey & Feminist Utopia Fantasy Story

Wed, 08 May 2013 16:23:55 +1000

One Shade of Grey & Feminist Utopia Fantasy Story

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